"Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
(From A.A. Milne's Winnie the Pooh)
Hello, my lovely friends!
So, I think you all have noticed that I have taken many days off from blogging over the past month and I think I owe you all an explanation about why. I think you know some of the things that are going on, but not everything. Grab a cup of coffee or tea because this is quite the story.
My friend that left Twitter/X has been back a couple of times and each time it ends in an agreement between the two of us. Before he left we never argued about anything, but that final week I can’t even count how many we got into. So, he left and I went on with my Twitter world with my online fam there and the guy I’m talking with. Things were fine and great, but then two weeks ago Nige showed up in my DMs. I had left two messages one for Christmas and the other for New Years, just wishing him the best. He wished the same thing back. We started talking and that turned into another fight. I got really upset and went on a posting rampage complaining about how it’s unfair to walk in and out of a person life without thinking of their feeling. I talked about my feeling should be validated too. He wasn’t happy about that tweet, but I never once said his name. He left and was gone for another week until last Friday.
On Thursday it was a great day there. Lots of interaction with friends all day and night. We had a great time, but late that night Nige popped in. Within minutes he started with me. I know it would be easy to not talk to him or even block him, but I am stubborn and won’t back down. This is the worst argument we’ve ever had. He said a lot of horrible things to me and by Friday morning I was done. I made an announcement on my page that I was considering leaving her for good and have a lot to think about over the weekend. I have the best friends there because so many we’re telling me not to go and how much they would miss me. On Saturday night he came back and yep we started again at it. He said he could never forgive me for the post, but yet wants forgiveness for the crap he said to me. I finally said that I was done with it all. I told him good bye and left the conversation.
On Sunday, I was talking to the “guy” and he said I should block him because he’ll always have the upper hand in things. I did block him finally. I’ve decided to stay because I have too many good friends and have a great time there. It was an emotionally month for me. It took so much out of me that I had no energy to do much. I was barley functioning normal, wasn’t sleeping much, and just being blah. This is why there have been many days without a blog because I was drained. Now that its over I’m going to get back to normal.
Thank you so much for stopping by.
I wish you a good morning, afternoon or evening wherever you are.
Talk soon…
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You are woman. I hear you roar. 🤗💞
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Blocking is a really smart thing to do, when things get like that I felt the same wanting to just leave completely but you are so right that would be kinda cutting your nose off to spite your face since you have so many great friends beside just that one. Easier to just block and enjoy your friends. Good to hear you are feeling more yourself.
ReplyDeleteYes, I feel so much better now that I blocked him. It hurts, but it had to be done. Yes, blocking is easier than leaving everyone I enjoy talking with.
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well, I can only say I'd block him, too, if he was so rude to me. No reason to put up with that and no reason for you to feel the need to leave if you like the group in general. Good luck going forward.
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barb
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It's been hard, but I'm getting through it. I just can't believe he said the things he said. I don't need to put up with that.
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I hate to admit it but I have had to do this when I got into unintended conflicts with folks online. Sometimes it's just not worth the effort, and if I can't restrain myself from responding to ... (fill in the blank, a political post, a blaming somebody else post, an absolutist attitude)... I'm better off just not reading their posts.
ReplyDeleteSad that life has to be that way, but sometimes it does. And sometimes, maybe I'm the jerk or the absolutist, or whatever, from their point of view, too. Better to have a "no contact" policy in that case. I've been divorced since 2003, so 20 years coming up soon... and we went into "no contact" as soon as we got the agreement in place. I was just too weak and getting drawn in to the relationship again because of that was a risk. I still care about him, our son has a relationship with him and with me, and I suspect whichever of us dies first will hear about it from the other.
Anyway, blocking can leave you feeling slightly unsatisfied at times, but it's like "trigger foods"... sometimes we just have to leave them out of the house!
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Barb
OKM
I stick to my friends there and the Old Hollywood, Twilight Zone and my friends over there. I cut out all the politics stuff there because my timeline can get full of it. I like how you compared it to "trigger foods" sometimes you just have to leave it alone.
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